while it may be damn hard for your writers to believe this, I can assure you its true: many times women do not dress up and do their hair and make up for men
sometimes they do it for themselves.
so they don’t care if men being surveyed don’t like the rosy cheek make up style or thick eye liner or thin eyebrow or bright lipstick. they can do what they want and mens’ opinion on it really shouldn’t matter
someone who doesn’t even wear makeup but is damn tired of being told what to do to please men
I understand what you’re saying, white dudebros. I really do. Because, despite all the anti-racism, anti-sexism, social justice-y stuff I do, deep down I’m still one of you. I’m a straight, white, middle-class, cisgender American male who grew up listening to George Carlin records and watching South Park (I even, quelle horreur, flirted with libertarianism for a bit).
So yeah, being told that we can’t say this one word sucks. And I know you’re totally not racist, but… there’s this really great joke that you want to share and it uses that word, but it’s fine because the point of the joke isn’t to make fun of black folks, it’s actually a biting piece of social commentary that points out the absurdity and ignorance of racism… etc. etc. etc.
I get it. I understand where you’re coming from. And yes, I agree that absolute freedom of speech is an admirable ideal. I also agree with you that words only have the power we give them. The problem is that over the past 400 or so years, we’ve given that word a whole lot of power. Dudes like us used to say that word all the time. And not just because they were singing along to Watch the Throne or quoting a Sarah Silverman bit.
Because of dudes like us, that word can hurt people more than pretty much any other word in the English language (sidenote: if you’re wondering about some of those other words- for women, LGBT people, Asians, Jews, and so on- you probably shouldn’t say those either). It’s dehumanizing. It’s mean. It conjures up the ghosts of America’s ugly past and exacerbates problems today. Just don’t say it. End of discussion.
Oh man, that’s hard to hear, isn’t it? It’s just a word, after all, and now you’re just dying to say it. But before you do, think for a moment about why it is that you’re angry. It’s because someone has told you that there is this one thing you’re not allowed to do because you’re white. It’s almost like there’s this distinction being made between you and everyone else just because of the color of your skin and you’re being treated like a second class citizen. Unfair, bro!
You’re right, bro. It is unfair. Now, imagine that instead of this being about whether you can say that one little word, we’re debating whether you’re allowed to attend the school you want, or whether you can marry the person you want, or whether you have to right to vote, or whether you’re a “real” person or just a piece of property.
That’s white privilege son. Because we’re so used to being able to do whatever we want, this one little restriction really bothers us. But it the grand scheme of things, it’s nothing. It’s literally the least we can do for how severely we fucked things up in the past. Even today, marginalized people from all walks of life deal with much worse on a daily basis. So just suck it up and start working to create a truly just society. Maybe someday in the future, our sons and daughters will be able to say that word again. Until then, quit whining and STFU.
One last thing… Let’s be honest here for a second, do you really think white people aren’t allowed to use the N-word? Honky, please. You know as well as I do that white people say it all the time, with little to no repercussions. What you’re angry about is that now people are starting to call us out on it..
Good post, and applies to any hateword out there, whether it be against queer folks or ableist or racist or sexist or etc etc
Because I have a surprising numer of people asking about this (and since I deleted the original post), here are the books I would recommend the most for those studying art. I understand that books are expensive (they take the place of me not being able to take art classes/go to art school), so remember that the best way to learn is to practice from what you see around you!
With that said, these are the ones I have personally used and either live by or would heavily suggest:
•The New Drawing on the Right Side of the Brain - Betty Edwards (this book is absolutely brilliant for those of you just starting out. It’s an ingenious resource if you haven’t got your own way of doing things. It messed me up because I’ve been doing things and learning things my own way for years now, but for those of you getting back into or just starting out, I would greatly suggest this one above all else)
•Anatomy for the Artist - Sarah Simblet (I wouldn’t be at the stage I am now without this book. Trust me, it’s invaluable!)
•Drawing the Human Head - Burne Hogarth (I know Hogarth isn’t the best example for anatomy and his books should be taken with a pinch of salt. However, he does an excellent job describing and comparing things to one another so it makes studying much easier)
•Perspective for Artists - Rex Vicat Cole (besides the book by Norling, this one is by far the best resource on perspective there is out there in my opinion. Super easy to understand and helps you along the way)
•The Human Figure in Motion - Eadweard Muybridge (a glorious and invaluable resource for those of us who don’t have the time or the confidence to sit in crowded malls and sketch people (or ask them to remove their clothing). Awesome resource)
•Animals in Motion - Eadweard Muybridge (I know this is the human reference section, but this book goes along with the one before and is an awesome resource for believable creature/monster movements)
•Comic Artist’s Photo Reference - Buddy Scalera (I absolutely adore this book series (there are three) as it has models of varying builds and races doing ‘hero-esque’ poses)
•Virtual Pose - Mario Henri Chakkour (while these books are awesome in the sense that they give you all kinds of angles for photographic life studies, they almost exclusively use ‘fit’ and ‘skinny’ models)
•Color and Light: A Guide for the Realist Painter - James Gurney (if you know me, you know that James Gurney is by far my most favouritest artist besides Donato and John Howe. This book is INCREDIBLE and an absolutely must-have if you’re studying light/shadow/warmth/cold/etc. in your paintings. I can’t praise it enough!)
•Color Mixing Bible - Ian Sidaway (I adore this book to pieces. It’s got craptons of swatches and mixes for loads of mediums. Helpful even for CG artists)
Right, those are mostly what I use/have used and suggest. These are basically what I’ve used in the past or am currently using now. While these books give you a nice go-ahead and good starter for what you’re doing, I still greatly suggest you keep the world as your study guide and draw from life as often as possible to help the most. The concept may seem boring, but when you get down to it and realise things you never knew before, you’ll realise how fun it is. Hope this all helps!
THE TRIALS ARE MY LEAST FAVORITE PART also he really does
the trials seriously demotivated me from continuing LOL. it was only cuz of my moms insistence that i got past them since they really sucked. the lanayru desert one was the one i had to redo the most- like 6 times since i sucked. only had to do the eldin volcano one twice because i got hella lucky (ran across the entire terrain while being chased and basically out of stamina lol…)
like seriously ghirahim obviously has a crush on link “oh i can tell you these things” “oh i wont punish you that harshly” seriously its like nintendo wanted to one-up supernatural on slash shipping hints and such.
youtube.com/watch?v… Chris posted this video a while back, it irritated me because I felt like most of the guys were just trying to get in the girl’s pants.
thats the problem i have. is there really such dishonesty that a man stays friends with someone they’re interested in just to get them in the sack? its an insult to both men and women, no matter the sexuality.
like i think it should be noted that one girl who said you can still be friends even if one person is attracted to the other, and I think thats okay. Sex is not equal to romantic feelings and they need to stop getting confused, I think.
Guys bitching about being “friend-zoned” has always made me feel like they are being whiny assholes. Is it really that horrible that someone wants a platonic relationship? Oh. Yes it is, because then you can’t get your dick wet. Asshats.
Exactly. Its insulting to the female or whoever because it’s their fault for not wanted them? How does that make them a ‘bitch’ for thinking they want to be friends.
The entire concept of the friend-zone is insulting in itself. Why does everything have to be super sexual?
If I refused to be friends with anyone I had a romantic interest in I would have like 25% less friends :\
That’s the thing! I don’t get how someone would refuse to be friends they have interest in just because it won’t be sexual. Then again I don’t understand whats the big, huge relationship-ruining deal about sex.
In general I read threads like that on Reddit because I’m a masochist, I think. Cuz it annoys me so much.
God forbid someone has a preference or choice.
Not to mention all the ‘Alpha’ ‘Beta’ male talk 8|
I’m not usually one to post things besides puppies (Loki counts as a puppy) and Dragon Age but this is something that is endlessly annoying to me.
The supposed ‘friend zone’. Where a cruel and uncaring woman sends a perfect white knight because she has no interest in him in anything other than a friend.
She’s a bitch for doing so, according to so many men on Reddit. Its not a matter that she values him as a friend and not sexual partner, SHE’S the one in the wrong for daring to not let him get his holy cock near her.
There’s a huge problem here that is just blowing my mind. How could men attack women for not being sexually attracted to them but then go around and constantly judge and mock women who aren’t model thin and beautiful? Are they not seeing their own hypocrisy?
“And if she still tries to friend zone you, stop fucking talking to her.”
-I dont know if its because I’m asexual but I don’t understand this. If you care enough for someone you’ll want to be friend with them and not use them as just a possible sexual partner.
"in the context my statement is still pretty accurate, and to be perfectly honest you shouldn’t be friends with a person you have romantic feelings for, if for no other reason than the potential consequences if you act on those feelings. That’s a great way to lose a marriage.’”
-How little control do people have that they so easily sway from their marriage vows? Once again I am likely understating it from my lack of sexual attraction and general lack of extreme emotions.
"She’s taking advantage of him? She’s the one that thinks that her friend actually wants to be her friend. She’s not the one pretending to be a chum but who really just wants sex. In all these friendzone posts, there is indeed a neurotic manipulative little bitch, but it’s not the woman.”
-Finally some fucking sense and I had to go over halway down the page to find it. Pointing out that, hey, maybe HE is the asshole for only using her as sex bait. I mean, come on. Then again a disappointing majority of Reddit commenters are forever aloners who hide their misogyny under the guise of being ‘the nice guy’ (which is a whole other clusterfuck of a topic).
"Bullshit, she knows he wants to hit. She just likes having a ‘friend’ who will do everything a bf will with none of the sex and fighting. It’s a win/win for chicks. Chicks should never enjoy a win/win unless they are giving up the sex."
This one was actually downvoted into the negatives by a bit. This comment was apparently too blatantly sexist for Reddit.
Look I’m not an idiot and understand theirs misunderstandings between people seeking relationships. It happens- the flirting is too subtle or something like it. But using the excuse of being ‘friend zoned’ to harshly attack a woman because, god forbid, she isn’t attracted to you is a shitty thing to do.
I’m sorry for this kinda longish post. But this is something that so thoroughly bothers me that when I read it it makes my head hurt. Why is it the woman’s fault for not liking you, Mr. Nice Guy. It happens the other way too- women being ‘friend zoned’ by men- except its not the same because any woman can constantly get a boyfriend all the time if she wanted to all the time because women are manipulative all the time. /sarcasm
this is also sort of incoherent because I’m sleepy and all I want to do is play zelda.