All my life, I grew up being told that “black” names are ghetto and held by people who are likely to be trashy. If you know a girl named Laquisha, Latoya, Shaniqua, or Kelendria, she’s probably the neighborhood hoodrat, and even names like Tyrone and Tyrese are blacklisted in our society (pun intended). Statistically, it’s been proven that resumes and job applications that bear these names are more likely to go unread or end up in the trash can. [Translation: you’re less likely to be hired if you are obviously black.]
But of course, names are alright if they are unquestionably mainstream (read: white) - Benjamin, Elizabeth, William, etc. Names are also fine if they are from a minority culture, as long as they are not identifiably a product of African-American culture; Alejandra, Lucia, Ivanka, Pierre, Elena, Boris, and Armando, are acceptable, exotic, and can even be beautiful. You might get teased on the playground, but your name is less likely to be a stigma or bad luck charm that follows you for the rest of your life.
When I worked at Hollister (not something I’m proud of), one of my white bosses was named Chanté. She told me how people were often surprised when they met her, and would say thinks like “you’re not black!” or “what a ghetto name for a little white girl!” Turns out, her name was French. Her family was French. But because Chanté has become such a popular name in the black American community, people have started to see it as ghetto. It’s losing its value because it’s associated with blackness.
A few weeks ago, I met a black girl named Shizuki. I immediately thought what an interesting ghetto name. I’m not exempt from prejudice. Such thoughts come to me once in a while, and I have to reprimand myself for upholding racist ideals instilled in me by American society. I asked her what her name meant, and she told me it was Japanese. Turns out, she was born in Japan and grew up there. Imagine how stupid I felt - and rightly so.
And now I suddenly understand why black names are frowned upon. Because things that are black, in this country, are ghetto. “Ghetto” is synonymous with poor, trashy, uncivilized, and ill-mannered. Because black names are ghetto, they are inherently ugly and unattractive, and names likes Tierra and Mo’nique (which I find aesthetically pleasing) will automatically be regarded as ugly. Simply put, the only reason why black names are bad… is because they are held by black people.
then it sent me all the messages lonika and nini sent eachother after i left
this one was my favorite:
[12:26:15 AM] tangentteaparty: i have a serious question [12:26:25 AM] Dr. Panimi: yes? [12:26:49 AM] tangentteaparty: should i read fanfic or go to sleep :I [12:26:57 AM] Dr. Panimi: ………. [12:27:05 AM] Dr. Panimi: you know i kinda expected a serious question like [12:27:18 AM] Dr. Panimi: “whats your thoughts behind having to pay for higher schooling” [12:27:28 AM] Dr. Panimi: or “why do you love animals but arent a vegetarian” [12:27:30 AM] tangentteaparty: did you [12:27:31 AM] tangentteaparty: really [12:27:38 AM] Dr. Panimi: or “when did you realize you were mostly gay” [12:27:41 AM] Dr. Panimi: but read fanfic.
What American artist would you like to collaborate with?
I would like to collaborate with the youngest of the Jonas Brothers. Not on music. I would like to make a humongous pizza with him. Like, take a lot of dough, and shape that into the biggest pizza you’ve ever seen.
Why is that?
I don’t know, he just looks like a guy that would be really good at making pizza.
My pet peeve is that I’m not a member of the Jonas Brothers. I could pretend to be their brother, but people could tell.
They have purity rings, they can’t have sex until they're married. You didn’t know, now you don’t want to be a Jonas Brother.
Well, that purity ring is fine, but that would get in the way of making the pizza. While we’re making the pizza just take it off for a second.
We’re making a pizza, it’s not like we’re gonna make love.
“To protest a bill that would require women to undergo an ultrasound before having an abortion, Virginia State Sen. Janet Howell (D-Fairfax) on Monday attached an amendment that would require men to have a rectal exam and a cardiac stress test before obtaining a prescription for erectile dysfunction medication.”—
Talked to another human being lately? I’m serious. You value knowledge above ALL else. You love new ideas, and become very excited over abstractions and theories. The fact that nobody else cares still hasn’t become apparent to you…
Nerd’s a great word to describe you, and I seriously couldn’t care less about the different definitions of the word and why you’re actually more of a geek than a nerd. Don’t pretend you weren’t thinking that. You want every single miniscule fact and theory to be presented correctly.
Critical? Sarcastic? Cynical? Pessimistic? Just a few words to describe you when you’re at your very best…*cough* Sorry, I mean worst. Picking up the dudes or dudettes isn’t something you find easy, but don’t worry too much about it. You can blame it on your personality type now.
On top of all this, you’re shy. Nice one, wench. No wonder you’re on OKCupid! Now, quickly go and delete everything about “theoretical questions” from your profile page. As long as nobody tries to start a conversation with you, just MAYBE you’ll now have a chance of picking up a date. But don’t get your hopes up.
I am interested though. If a tree fell over in a forest, would it really make a sound?
I thought I would score higher, like, 17-27ish but it’s pretty low… Scored low on everything except vanity and exploitiveness which are medium. I don’t know if that makes me feel better or urges me to be more self-confident;;;;
I thought i’ll get like, at least half. I’m surprised at myself ahahaaaa
lol CLOSE ENOUGH
I guessed that I’d get half of that. And I almost did. Every stat was medium ( authority, etc. ) except “Entitlement”. Apparently, I’m low on that and don’t credit myself enough when I deserve it. < . <;;;
“You talk white.”—As a young latina, this was expressed to me numerous times after displaying an ‘extensive’ vocabulary or my use of grammatically correct english. It also usually went hand in hand with “you’re not like the rest of them.” I felt angry, sad, despondent. I would go talk to my mom afterwards in my frustration and luckily she would tell me how wrong what they said was and that being intelligent was NOT exclusively ‘white’, supported with many examples of educated people of color. (via microaggressions)